Perhaps addiction to a specific
emotion or feeling may not be what enters one’s mind when speaking to
addiction. But by definition, addiction is “a strong and harmful need to
regularly have something or do something”. And that something can just as
easily be to an emotion as it can be to a drug or behavior such as
thrill-seeking.
When we look at addiction to
sadness, we must first acknowledge that there is a difference between
purposefully seeking a state of emotional sadness and the medical illness
called depression. Depression is far more than an occasional case of “the
blues” and should never be taken lightly by the sufferer or the support
persons.
This writer would be remiss if
she didn’t share two vital pieces of information regarding depression, prior to
diving into sadness addiction. If you have any inkling that you are depressed,
please visit the Mayo Clinic website for its “Depression Self-Assessment” test.
If you feel that you’re in crisis or just need to talk, call the US National
Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Readers, please do not confuse this with, or,
dismiss a person who is struggling with situational, seasonal, or clinical
depression.
An addiction to sadness is where one purposefully remains
in an emotional state of sadness. It is no different then an addiction to
drama, where one purposefully seeks out life drama and chaotic situations.
Although the root causes between drama and sadness addictions are quite
different. For the person addicted to sadness, it stems from an unhappy and
lonely childhood where sadness was an often-felt emotion. Due to the emotional
familiarity, sadness becomes that person’s evil best friend.
Signs of the sadness addict can be a person who, no matter
how much positivity life brings their way, simply dismisses it and turn to
negative feelings. This person may choose to listen to “lovelorn” music, even
when in a solid relationship, in order to evoke sad emotions. In speaking to
them you will find that any conversation will turn to the negative aspect of
whatever you may be discussing. The sadness addict literally feels safe to stay
within the “comfort” of their sadness because it is a familiar place to be.
Have you identified yourself or someone close to you?
This writer is not a clinician and does not dole out medical
advice, just life observation. For the sadness addict, eventually as with any
addiction, there is a price to pay. Left untreated by a legitimate specialist,
the sadness addict will inevitably lose friends, relationships, and fail to
grow to a healthy emotional state. Again, sadness addiction is not to be
confused with or compared to depression.
*Medical Advice Disclaimer: The information included in this
article is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical
advice. The reader should always consult his or her healthcare provider.
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