I think that it was Marilyn
Monroe who said, “You're no one until someone hates you.” It is true that
people will dislike you once you attain a level of success and it is also
rather sad for those who have feelings of dislike, or even hate, towards you for
the simple fact of your success.
It is at this time that our
personal self-awareness is most helpful. Being self-aware and knowing who you
are allows you to forgive those that spew venom towards you for your successes.
But what if you are the person filled with hateful jealousies toward another?
The simplistic answer for your
jealousy is that you are unhappy with yourself and suffer from low self-esteem.
And it’s easier to “dislike or hate,” (which in essence is veiled jealousy), a
person that you perceive to be successful. You may even believe that the target
of your dislike is unjustifiably successful.
Digging deeper, this jealousy
that you feel toward another is actual fear of what you, yourself lack. It is
much, much easier to point a finger at someone else then to take time for
introspection. Personal introspection means that you will have to face your
personal demons and come to terms with the fact that you are not happy with
where you are in your life journey.
If you find that your
consistently focusing hateful feelings towards another, it’s time to take a
step back and take a good, long look at yourself. Ask yourself – Has this
person sincerely wronged me or is this my personal misperception? Does this
person affect my life? Why am I angry with this person? If you are absolutely
truthful to yourself, you will find that this person has not wronged you, does
not affect your life, and that you’re angry with this person because of your
own unhappiness and low self-esteem.
My personal journey brought me to
a place of only ever being in competition with myself. But, you can’t get to
that place or even understand it until you put in the work to become
comfortable with who you are. Attaining self-esteem is a journey that begins
with introspection and ends with happiness. In between introspection and
happiness is where all the hard work is.
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